RANT WARNING!! The segregation of the man as a component of the parental unit

THE SEGREGATION OF THE MAN AS A COMPONENT OF THE PARENTAL UNIT

This starts from the first visit to the doctor's office with your pregnant girlfriend, fiancee or wife...whichever applies to you. If you think I'm bullshittin', understand that I've personally gone through this 4 times now. It doesn't matter that this last time was via an interracial union...the story remains the same.

The nurses in the office do NOT respect your position as the man of the relationship....the very reason why this girl is even in the office to begin with. They rarely acknowledge to you. They don't speak you unless they are asking you to go sit in the lobby or the waiting area. Bullshit. I'm there to support every aspect of this pregnancy. Why should I have to be away from my girl when she wants and needs me there? The nurses act like you have no reason to be there.

It only gets worse from here.

Should things not work out between you and your the mother of your child and a split is unavoidable, more than likely, your path will lead you to some court of law where you will see just how unbalanced the laws are in favor of the mother. The man gets the shaft most often than not. Currently, I am going through a situation where I'm being obligated to pay my 2nd "babymama's" child support for a son that she refuses to let me see. She tells me that he doesn't know me and that she's not going to "do this" to him. When I last spoke to him on Thanksgiving, he started crying in the phone because he misses his daddy. She is clearly using him as a pawn. The law lets her get away with this. We both created him.....it was I who determined what sex he eventually was due to the chromosome (biology talk which I will not go into here, but the MAN determines the sex of the child).....all a woman does is carry and birth the child. Sounds like it is a combined effort to bring a child into the world. So why must I go through the process of legitimization alone? Why must I be held responsible to provide child support, yet not have equal parental rights? It's not fair. Everyone, even those in the judicial system knows it's not fair. Why isn't anything being done about this to even the playing field?

Well, as I understand it now, during the process of determining child support, now BOTH parties income is factored in. Before then, a woman could be working a regular 9 to 5, getting money from her NEW man and the father would still be responsible for providing child support for a child who more than likely didn't even need it OR even saw a dime of it. Now, I am not saying that a father shouldn't provide for his children, but the point of the entire thing is to ensure that the child is taken care of financially. If a mother has that already, what then is the point? The courts have lost sight of that and has used child support as a means of exacting punishment against the father and given unnecessary power to the mother. Too many times women have had children as a way to receive a payday and most often than not, monies received in child support are never used to support the child. Don't forget that we are talking about a gender that for the most part lives to shop. Do not be blind to this fact. I've seen my fair share of women using child support money to buy themselves new shoes, clothes and whatever in the hell else that they want because the child has already been taken care of. Even this is not fair. To use child support to "replenish" the mother's pocketbook just because she has used her money on the child.....I find a bit of fault in that from this perspective: are we absolving the mother from having to also provide child support from a monetary position?? Are we saying that the father is the only way required to PAY MONEY? That roof that is currently over the child's head would already be there regardless of if the child was born or not, so how is that truly providing child support from the mother's perspective? You can't use this argument. The woman using child support money to pay the cable or internet bill is NOT providing child support in the technical sense. That is a luxury that she benefits from more than the child. Again, you can't use this argument. The child would prosper just the same WITHOUT it.

What's even worse than all of this is the fact that when this woman goes out to place a father on child support, she is usually scorned and bitter over whatever went wrong in the relationship and now all of a sudden, it's mandatory that the father now be held responsible for providing support for the child. OK, I get that. So why not put a father on child support FROM DAY ONE? They wait until the relationship deteriorates and then the mother wants to get the last punch in and walk away unscathed, to wait on their eventual payday? The mother goes to the local child support or DFACS office and goes through the process only to wind up not receiving full compensation because she was too stupid to realize that this is a service provided to assist her meaning, they ain't gonna do the shit for free! That's right. The money that they are trying to take from the father.....there's a portion of that going to the same office that they ran to for help. So now, that too is the father's fault! Back to my 2nd "babymama"......this idiot attempted to place me on child support once I become involved in another relationship after she clearly showed that she didn't want to be with me and raise our son together. She made it clear through a series of events......putting me out of her car in the middle of the street, not once but twice, locking my personal belongings up in her apartment, disappearing and not answering her phone, numerous times where she kicked me out of her apartment only to get mad when a chick came to pick me up (not understanding that one at all!), purposely starting fights and the all important stabbing that led her to be charged with aggravated assault ($20,000 bond) to which I never pursued OR pressed charges only because she was pregnant with my boy. The second I got with my current girlfriend, fiancee and soon to be mother of my 4th child, what do you know?? Here comes the child support order! LMAO! Things is, I was already on child support from the mother of my first two kids. I wasn't working and still not due in part to my criminal record and this ever-loving economy. She already knew well in advance about my first child support order, so why did she play herself and go in there to exact revenge on me? Because I wasn't generating any income, her order came out to be $120 a month. Is it any surprise that she got PISSED when she got (let her tell it) a $19 check for child support?? Of course, that too was my fault. If she hates me so much, can anyone reading this tell me why this dumb bitch still tries to come to every family event and function that my family has? She forces it down everyone's throat that she and my son are a "package deal". She is jealous and scorned that I have moved on and now have the family life that I had been wanting. In her own words, she said this past Christmas in front of my mother and aunt that "she got the short end of the stick". What in the fuck does that mean??

OK, I've gotten a bit off of the subject, but it is a RANT.....

At least you can hopefully see where I was going with this entire subject. Men and fathers are getting shitted on and we take it because we have no rights or anyone fighting for us. It starts almost from the beginning and it becomes a neverending losing battle. Ideally, I would like to get together with other fathers who are going through similar issues along with lawmakers, politicians, attorneys, lawyers, news media and anyone who can help to correct these problems. All it takes is for one man to take a stand against the injustice.

A New Direction......

I'll tell you what......this acting thing is the shit!

Now before I start, let me just say that no, I am no "seasoned actor". My "experience" is minimal, at best. However, I feel I have what most don't.....a NATURAL ability. Sure I could use training.....why not if it's going to make me better, right? Too many people over the years have made mention and took notice that I'm just natural. They've spoken on my personality and charisma and I've heard often that I should be acting. Who would have ever known that I would finally taken them up on that? Hahahaha......

This all started last October. I was given the opportunity by a great friend of mine in the movie business by the name of Bobby Peoples of The Peoples Film Company/The Peoples Network. Our relationship was formed when he became my main video producer that I trusted to shoot all (and I mean ALL thus far) of my music videos. When it was initially brought up to me the chance that I could one day appear in one of his independent films, I thought, "cool.....that would definitely help my buzz in the music industry".

After some time, the opportunity finally materialized and I initially looked at it as nothing more than a brief cameo. Mind you, at the time I was still focusing primarily on my music career although I was extremely appreciative of the chance to work with him in HIS natural field of filmmaking and not necessarily just video production. Before this however, I felt that I had "experience" in front of the camera when we shot my first two music videos. Yea, I was seriously trippin'. Totally different!! More on that later....

Bobby (the producer of this film) and DeWitt Jones (writer & director of this film) both gave me my first shot on the set of the independent thriller, "Night Of The Jackals"! I can't tell you what it did for me to receive my first ever script to read! Granted, I didn't have much to read. In fact, my character was untitled at the time. I was told that I was playing "Thug #1". Big stretch, I know. Bobby and DeWitt give the actors room to ad-lib so that everything appears as natural as possible on-screen. That was a big help. I really didn't even stick to the script when it came down to filming on set. I had an interaction scene with an actor, Jeremy and the lead character, actress Tarjatta Rose. I basically did me. Not really understanding the entire process, I found myself momentarily reverting back to the music industry and looked right into the camera during one particular take! Yea. Seriously trippin' and lost focus for a second, but all in all, even though it was a short scene, I did my best not to let any of the seasoned professionals down in hopes that I would be considered for future roles. Just like that, my time on the set was over. I got a few pictures to remind me of my groundbreaking experience and went home with my chest full of pride. "Look at me now!", I thought to myself.

Fast forward to February and sure enough, the studio worked hard to release this film on time. I received my first ever invitation to the much-hyped "Red Carpet World Premiere". I wanted to go with the only person in the world who I wanted to share this new experience with, I went their in the company of my fiancee who I am sure was as wide eyed as I was. There I had the pleasure of being interviewed by two different media outlets in addition to being one of an exclusive few to watch the private screening. With me knowing my scene fairly well, I knew at what point it was coming up in the film. I was anxiously nervous and was more concerned with what Kim would think about my performance. Imagine my shock when I seemingly had one of the more comedic performances in the movie by the reaction of everyone in attendance! I was just being me, in my opinion, but everyone seemed very genuine in their approval and acknowledgements! I met a few (actually, a lot!) of people who were very congratulatory and sincere in their compliments regarding my very small scene and screen time. Right then is when I wanted more.....to DO more and not necessarily for the rave reviews and things that come as a part of delivering on screen, but more so because THIS is the next step for me in my path throughout this realm of entertainment. Making music was fun. This is EXCITING! Major difference.

Now that the movie is out, it's on to other film roles. I've just been informed that I'll be in the new movie "For Thy Love 2", so look for a blog coming soon on that! I'm also in preliminary talks to be in another movie, which I won't go into at this time. However, all of this is leading up to my very own written screenplay tentatively titled, "Lock & Load" later this year/middle of next year. I'm already in the studio working on the soundtrack for it. Bobby's keeping me pretty busy in between time doing the DVD cover for a series that he is also currently developing called, "Money, Power & Respect". Oh, y'all didn't know I also do graphic design?? LOL!

Yes, I am definitely headed in a NEW direction and I am all in like poker chips. Take a look at these video clips from the red carpet world premiere and the after party! I'll hit you guys up soon.......peace!

Interviews from Night of the Jackals Premiere

My interview starts at the 5:45 mark!




You can see me at the 7:42 mark!

Will She Ever?? (The Submissive's Creed)

Found this surfing the ol' 'Net and thought it was VERY insightful. It was called, "The submissive's Creed". Those that claim to be, read close and take note.....

The submissive's Creed

i am a submissive woman…

i find pleasure, joy and fulfillment from being submissive to another in a loving relationship

i am not weak or stupid. i am a strong woman, with firm views and a clear concept of what i want out of my life.

i do not serve out of shame or weakness, but out of pride and strength.

i look to my loving Master for guidance and protection, for never am i more complete than when He is with me.

i know that He will protect my body, my mind and my soul with His strength and wisdom.

He is everything to me, as i am everything to Him.

His touch awakens me and His thoughts free me.

Only in serving Him do i find complete freedom and joy.

His punishments are harsh, but i accept them thankfully, knowing that He has my best interests always foremost in His mind.

If He desires my body for pleasure, i shall joyfully give it to Him, and take pleasure myself from knowing that i have brought Him happiness.

However, the pleasure of the flesh is but one facet of any relationship.

The love, the trust and sharing, the words spoken and felt, those are all parts of this relationship.

my body is His, and if He says i am beautiful, then i am.

No matter what i look like to others, i am beautiful in His eyes, and because of that i hold my head high for who can tell me that my Master is wrong in seeing the beauty in me?

If He says i am His princess, then i am that…regal and graceful.

And if i see laughter at me in the eyes of others, i do not recognize it, for who are they to call my Master wrong?

If He says i am His toy, His slut, His tramp, then i am that…as wanton and dirty as He wants me to be, and if others do not see this, then it is they who are blind, not my Master.

my mind is His, to expand, to explore, to know as only He can.

i have no secrets from Him…for secrets are a thing that would keep me from being perfectly His.
Secrets would put a wall up between my Master and myself…and i do not want walls.

His lessons are not always ones i would seek on my own, but they are lessons He has decided i need, and so i learn from Him.

my soul is His, as bare to His touch as ever my skin could be when i kneel naked at His feet.

Never a moment goes by when i do not feel his presence, be He miles away or standing over me.

If i were to ever displease Him, His displeasure would be a blow to my soul, worse punishment than any lashes could be.

The anguish of my soul that i feel when i disappoint Him is harder to bear than the physical anguish i feel when His belt caresses me with fire.

i spend my days knowing that the energy and thought He puts into our relationship is as much for my benefit as for His, and look forward to each lovingly crafted scene that we do together.

i am His pleasure and His responsibility, and He takes both seriously.

i am a submissive woman. i am proud to call myself that.

my submission is a gift that i do not give lightly, and can only be given to One who can appreciate that gift and return it tenfold.

Only to He who has that strength will i give myself fully, because i am strong and proud.



I wonder if I will ever be able to give her my collar or is it meant for another?

For The Love of God....Please Mind Yo' Own Fuckin' Business!!

I think I've had it up to my asshole with people talking (and STILL talking!) about Chris Brown and Rihanna. I could care less. Would you like to know why? It's simple......IT'S NOT MY FUCKIN' BUSINESS!

I find it quite sad that soooo many regular people (read: NOBODIES) have had something to say about this situation. Most people who are making wild comments are nothing more than fans with no life of their own. If they had something else going on in their lives, I doubt that they would even have the time to say one word. I mean, don't get me wrong......is it a fucked up situation? Sure it is, but do we know all of the details? No. Was anyone making comments there to witness it as it happened? NO. I'm sure that most reading this will assume that I'm condoning his actions. I assure you that I am not.....BUT believe me when I tell you that it ALWAYS takes two to tango, so to speak. Not to mention that I am and has always been a firm believer of Chris Rock's infamous, tongue-in-cheek monologue where he stated, "ain't nobody above an asswhippin'!"

It pisses me off to read blogs where they are crucifying Chris Brown and judging him before he has his day in court. However, that part of it really isn't the point of my blog. It's the losers that plug in their little videocameras or sit in front of their webcams and waste 5 minutes of their day, talking about two individuals that they do not even know. They never once think about themselves in that position and think, "how would I feel if that was my personal business all out there for the world to make commentary on?" I already know.....embarrassed. Much like they already are. However, this is never factored in to their thinking. Instead, these idiots are using the plight of these two just to have their brief five minutes of fame and to have their voices heard. I wasted five minutes of my day last week looking at a YouTube video from this one fat loser bitch who spoke about Chris and Rihanna's situation and had the audacity to say that she knows from her experience. Do you think she went into HER experience any? Hell no. It was all about the help that Chris needed to get. Okay. So I commented on her pitiful video and asked her if she thought her video would be better served if she spoke more about what she had gone through instead of throwing her opinions out there about people that she clearly didn't know. You think she responded back to me? Matter of fact, do you think that she even approved my comments?? LMAO....of course she didn't, which only incensed me even more because I felt like I was being censored simply because I didn't agree with her in the way that the other people whose comments were approved. By the way, that is a real pussy ass move. Even if you do not agree with me, at least I will approve your damn comment because I'M NOT SCARED TO HAVE PEOPLE DISAGREE WITH ME!

Now.....onto Ms. Oprah Winfrey.

http://www.eonline.com/videos/v14990094001_oprah_winfrey_warns_rihanna.html

This was clearly the worst display of self-righteousness I've seen in a long time. Oprah can go straight to hell, and that was before she said this bullshit. First off, Oprah should be THE LAST person giving anyone any kind of relationship advice. This "advice" is coming from a man-hating, dog faced bitch who couldn't give that pussy away. Is it any wonder why she's rich? What else are you going to do if you're not getting any sex? Get money, that's what. Notice the man-hating, cross dressing Tyler Perry next to her. No comment.













Hey Prez......you might wanna keep this over-opinionated bitch away from the Misses!


In closing, no, this is not another blog on Chris Brown and Rihanna. Lord knows that we don't need another one of them plus, these two are already back together and we need to wish them the best. This blog entry is about people who have nothing better to do than to speak recklessly about other individuals' personal business when their own situation may not be as rosy as they would have you believe! Who cares about your personal feelings or opinions on the matter? It's not YOU. It's simple....MIND YOUR OWN FUCKIN' BUSINESS!